When people make the actual decision to change
There is nothing remarkable about their lives in that moment
There is little visible evidence of the change they have decided to make;
The beer bottle is still in their hand, they are still in debt, the weight has not been lost yet,
They are right in the middle of the very thing they are deciding to leave behind.
And sometimes the people that have known them the best;
their family and friends
Are the hardest ones to convince of the sincerity of their decision.
Because those closest to them have known their former ways and
Need concrete evidence lest they be disappointed.
Perhaps many promises of change have been made and broken
And believing these declarations of change has become harder and harder each time.
They want to see more than a glimmer of hope
Than a hint of change.
They have to see it to believe it.
The trouble is, the people closest to individuals who really want to change
Are often the biggest contributors to and reinforce-rs of this change
Yet they are often initially the most skeptical of the change itself.
And perhaps this skepticism actually serves to extinguish the tiny flame
And it never get the chance to manifest.
Its been argued that individuals who threaten to commit suicide
Should always be taken seriously
And not dismissed as just seeking attention
Or making a scene,
Because what if they actually do it?
Will our skepticism have a leg to stand on?
Now imagine what it would be like to take people at their word who
Say they want to change.
What would happen?
Sure, we’d be disappointed if the change is slow or short lived
And that can truly be a hard thing to do, time and time again.
The question rages in our minds, ”Is this change for real?”
And so we don’t buy it.
But maybe if we ask ourselves a harder question
We’d see that our attitudes towards this change
Could influence whether the change actually comes about or not.
We can rather ask :
”Do we really want to be counted among the barriers
That our loved ones had to overcome in order to make good
Of their decision to change? To grow?
To become the very people we have dream them to be?”
Perhaps that glimmer of hope doesn’t stand a chance against
The forces of your doubt.