It is not likely that a restaurant manager will encounter a customer who will mill around the kitchen to check whether food preparation protocols are being followed to internarional standards.
Or that a patient will ask her new therapist when they last they attended a continual professional development course.
We meet strangers everyday whom we choose to trust right off the bat before anything is delivered, based on the impression they give.
Once we decide that we like this stranger, it becomes much easier to trust them or even excuse them for a mistake. We choose to accept them because we like them.
Hence when we find ourselves calling certain things “unacceptable” in some people that perhaps we would have overlooked in others,
It may be that we just dislike them.
It is easy to condemn people we don’t like.
Acceptance is less a matter of the facts
And more a matter of the will.