Conditional love

How do you respond to conditional love?Certainly not in kind.We are not necessarily boundBy the treatment others give to us,We have no obligationTo wait until their attitude improvesBefore we change our own.Love, as it turns out,Is always an option.Indeed it is a tall orderTo take the high road,But it is the only road availableTo reach […]

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On finding your tribe

One of the greatest possibilitiesOf the ongoing human experimentIs that the people we find kinship withMay not share our bloodOur skinOr our beliefs,But have the eyesTo see one another truly.Deeply.With hearts that have the depth and breadthTo hold space for each other.We do not need to be the sameTo walk with one anotherBut we do […]

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Friends from college

Are better than friends from high school.That’s my opinion anyway.Because what did I know at 16?About myselfAbout the worldAbout what I wanted in a friendship?Heck, I am not sureI even liked me back then.Friends from collegeAre the ones who found meWhile I was finding myselfAs they were finding themselves,And whenever we meet againIts not a […]

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The privileged ones

Are often not the onesBest positioned to see everythingFor what it really is-Like a person who’s never goneWithout light,Straining and struggling to seeIn the darkness,For their eyes are not accustomedTo the experience of thoseWho live in the shadows.Yet their privilege gives them powerThat no one else has,To change the order of things,To make the room […]

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The failures of others

Are not necessarily occasionsFor your withdrawalOr consternation,As though you were an inanimatePiece of paperYellowing under the unforgiving sun,Curling in on itself Becoming increasingly deformedAs though it had no choice.Unlike that paperYou are not obligatedTo bend into yourselfWhen you are in pain-Something beautiful can be madeFrom your trauma.The failures of othersNeed not define youNor be the […]

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Welcome to humans

Good intentions go awry regularly,Offence is never far,Fear is always close,Misunderstanding to be expected.We love diversityUntil it tampers with our sacred cows,Superficial strides toward unityAre the easiest to make,We laugh at the truthAnd cry at perceived hurts,Routinely undervaluing our treasuresAnd overestimating our shortcomings.Its a lot to be human.Deep breaths are necessary,Apologies need not be scarce,Laughter […]

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Maturity is a doing word

Because the emotional labor required To overlook the shortcomings of others  For the sake of a healthier relationship  Does not come with age, But with intention.  Maturity is not a noun, As though it were something attained once off By virtue of simply being alive- No: Maturity is a choice  And one that we are […]

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Stuck in the mud

Sometimes we get interruptedOn our way,Thrown together by fate for a whileWith people we thoughtWe’d only be with temporarily.United by strange circumstancesAnd inconvenienceAll trying to make sense of the momentAnd find the best way out of it.Yet what we found is thatThe mud did more than stick our feetTo the ground,It also bound our hearts […]

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The land of no sorry

What to doWhen the offender will not apologize?When they fail to acknowledgeThat any wrong has been doneAnd shows no sign of changing tack?What to doWhen you find yourself languishingIn the land of no sorry?The forsaken desert ofNo remorse andNo repentance?You do the unthinkableAnd indeed the least desirable-Carry forgiveness in your heart.It is the only water […]

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Her laugh

There’s quite likeWatching her unfurlLike a banner of joyIn human form,Laughter turning her faceInto a blossomThat lights up the room,Her voice into a banquetI’d like to go to,Humor and mirthIn the very air we breath.Her laugh is never pernicious,Breaking out at someone else’s expense,But it is pure and undulatingUplifting and invitingInfectious in all the best […]

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