Financial Decoupling

Money is rarely just money.Its relationship to our identityIs one few of us can openly admitBut one we all feel intimately.All this talk of financial securityDoesn’t account for the phenomenon whereWhile we are on our wayTo securing the bagThe bag itself has secured us,Binding us to itself until weAlmost solely base our existenceOn moneyAnd the […]

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Words for the grieving.

There are few.Few that will suffice.Few that will offer true solace.Words cannot fill a voidThat a person once did.They will always be inadequateAlways less than what a bewildered heartNeeds.So if you find yourselfIn the presence of the grievingAnd on the verge of mounting intoA monologue regarding the nature of lifeAnd death,Keep in viewThe limits of […]

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Appetite for Appearances

There’s something hollow About caring more about your reputation Than your legacy, On looking like you have it all And yet possessing very little indeed, Catering so much for the eyes Yet so little for the heart, An ever growing repertoire of performances With fewer and fewer people you can trust With your mask off. […]

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Commitment begets commitment

It makes it easier to choose to stay forThe long haulWhen you see others choosing to do the same.Family.Art.Business.Fellowship.Consistency in othersCan often feel as concrete as the walls around us.This is why broken promises are so shatteringDisorienting.The atmospheres we inhabitAre made up of kept promises as much as they are of oxygen.Simply showing up consistentlyMatters. […]

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Home

A place, at first,But later we come to know that its peopleThat make us feel at home.Familiar in the best way possible,Close, but not smotheringWarm.Someone you have never lived withCan feel like homeThey somehow carry a part of you aroundA voice that your heart has grown to loveConversations that fill the chambers of your mindMaking […]

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Big sis

Never misses a chance to remind you that you are the younger oneAnd that there are things you are yet to see in this life.We suspect she is secretly proud of the thankless jobOf co-raising her younger siblings.She sees stuff you can’tShe worries about things you have little inkling ofShe cares much deeper than she […]

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Brave Faces vs. Brave Hearts

Brave faces are what we put on when everything isn’t okay at home.A show of strengthThe forced smile in public places.The half-hearted appearance at gatherings like a mindless roll call.A lot of the fodder on our newsfeeds are brave facesThe pleasant but joyless phone call.Putting on a brave face is not bravery at allIts going […]

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5

Some voids never get filled. Like the one a father leaves behind. Times passes. The void itself becomes as much a part of who we are As the cherished souls that remain. In loving memory of my Dad. 5 years today.

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COVID Christmas

The pandemic isn’t over.Far from it.Some of us didn’t make it.Some of us are stuck in foreign placesSterilized roomsAbusive houses.Some of us can’t be with the ones we love.Some of us are sitting aloneIn silence. In darkness.Isolation.Christmas has always been rough for many-A reminder of what could have been,But isn’t.ChristmasIs not only for the merry;The […]

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Habits of love

Slow. Steady pursuit.Daily considerationsAnnual recommitments.Making plans for more than one.Listening.Forgiving.Letting some things goCalling other things out.Sitting in another’s messAnd not rushing to clean it up.Sitting in another’s victoryAnd not diminishing their moment.Rooting for another.Weeping for another.Being for another.

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