Fake forgiveness

Is rushed Half baked  Performative  And full of pretence It harbours bitterness  Allows abuse to continue And pays lip service to one of God’s greatest gifts.  It’s true that forgiveness is vital  But it’s counterfeit is deeply detrimental.  We do not forgive for the sake of appearances of peace Nor for a higher moral ground. […]

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I’m getting older

I don’t always have to win.Sometimes just being here is enough.Sleep is better than TV now.Friendship is complicated-Don’t get me started about the perplexity that is romance.Family is really, really messyBut really, really important.People’s opinions are just opinions.My friends are complaining about back pain.I can genuinely smile in the mirror these days.Phone calls with Mama […]

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On needing to being liked

Something in me aches For a smile On the face of every strangerAffirmationOn the lips of every loved oneEager support From every colleague and acquaintance,As though all the world’s peoplesWere extras in my screenplayNPCs* in my video gameSpectators and cheerleaders on my sidelines-Always seeing things my wayAlways ready to play their partOf the grateful participantIn […]

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Agenda

Not all of us have an agenda.Contrary to what wasExpected of herShe did not haveA well calculated reasonFor every stepA motive for every actionAs though every act would allTally up one daySo she could claimWhat she’d been after all along.For her it was different.She had no agenda.She was just respondingTo love.She’d learned to stop runningStop […]

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Durban

Not quite the place I rememberBut still the place I love.Too warm to have a ‘proper winter’Too diverse to not belong to all of usFood that feels like homeFriends that feel like familyWarm walks along the beachDreamy nights along the coast.The place I found many loves-The love of GodThe love of my fellowAnd the love […]

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Long enough

If you sit there long enoughYou might come to seeThat the world is bigger than your problemsAnd it will keep spinning on its axisWith our without you.If you love for long enoughYou will come to know that being ‘right’ is overratedAnd it is better to simply beWith the ones you loveThan win in every circumstance.If […]

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Conditional love

How do you respond to conditional love?Certainly not in kind.We are not necessarily boundBy the treatment others give to us,We have no obligationTo wait until their attitude improvesBefore we change our own.Love, as it turns out,Is always an option.Indeed it is a tall orderTo take the high road,But it is the only road availableTo reach […]

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The failures of others

Are not necessarily occasionsFor your withdrawalOr consternation,As though you were an inanimatePiece of paperYellowing under the unforgiving sun,Curling in on itself Becoming increasingly deformedAs though it had no choice.Unlike that paperYou are not obligatedTo bend into yourselfWhen you are in pain-Something beautiful can be madeFrom your trauma.The failures of othersNeed not define youNor be the […]

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Her laugh

There’s quite likeWatching her unfurlLike a banner of joyIn human form,Laughter turning her faceInto a blossomThat lights up the room,Her voice into a banquetI’d like to go to,Humor and mirthIn the very air we breath.Her laugh is never pernicious,Breaking out at someone else’s expense,But it is pure and undulatingUplifting and invitingInfectious in all the best […]

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Mama’s house

The house smelled like laughter,Mostly hers-A medium tone chuckleThat stretched on like a happy mistThat lingered in the room.Her buoyant spiritWas a steady recognizable atmosphereThat made every house we lived inFeel like home.Saturday morningsWe woke up to Mama praying;Loudly and intenselySomehow instilling bothThe fear of GodAnd a deep sense of safetyBefore saying amen.She governed the […]

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