Conditional love

How do you respond to conditional love?Certainly not in kind.We are not necessarily boundBy the treatment others give to us,We have no obligationTo wait until their attitude improvesBefore we change our own.Love, as it turns out,Is always an option.Indeed it is a tall orderTo take the high road,But it is the only road availableTo reach […]

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We have become His poetry

From enemies and vagabondsTo lovers and trusted sonsGod has done a thingThat we will sing about forever,For He has penned a glorious stanzaWith our very lives,Weaving together seemingly random eventsThat converge to form a constellation of His mercies-Moments that made no senseSeasons so dark we lost our very selvesNon-linear paths that all led usHere.To His […]

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Understanding others

Doesn’t mean condoning their folly Or overlooking the pain that they cause, But it does involve being curious   About where they are coming from And bringing an ear to hear  Not just their words but their heart.  It is a fools errand  To try and change another person, So rather than assuming victimhood And reacting […]

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How good?

How good must your fortunes beBefore you choose generosity?How much reassuranceBefore you behave like you belong?How much good will you overlookBefore you accept that ‘better is possible’?There’s nothing quite as difficultAs winning your own heart overAfter it gets jaded enough,Even when there is sufficient evidenceTo support a better narrative-Once you are convincedYou live in a […]

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Everything is data

It’s easy to think  That the only useful parts  Of our story  Are the victories; The well implemented model The picture perfect event The thriving relationship.  These are the parts we are  Most inclined to share with others- Our journey of overcoming.  But human life is littered with setbacks, Our good days are punctuated with […]

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The pace of approval

There is a pernicious thoughtThat tells us that our work only matters When it is applauded,That our lives only count When they are seen and celebratedBy others.But what if the message we carryIs one that The world is not ready to hear? What if our purpose on this earthIs to hold up a mirror To the people around us,And uncover […]

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Capacity for Illusions

Humans have a great great capacityFor illusions,For imagining a version of the worldDictated by our preferencesAs though we were the ones who made itIn seven days.God has mercy on those He wants to have mercy,Whether or not we agree with His assessmentAnd He plays on a field far, far aboveOur own.We are not Christians because […]

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One day at a time

Life is livedOn life’s terms-Not ours.We often hope that the coming of the new yearDramatically changes certain things in our lives:As if when the clock strikes twelveWe will find ourselves on a steady pathTowards radical transformation.Life is livedDay to dayAnd the people we becomeAlong the wayMatters far more than the shores we seek to reach.Real […]

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Boundaries

Often feel like  The mechanisms  We put in place  To defend ourselves After we’ve been burned, Or structures we erect  To protect others From our worst selves- But they so much more. They are the means by which  We learn what is most important to us, To remind ourselves That not every opportunity  Has to […]

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Fights of Endurance

Sometimes after months of waging warYou don’t get a decisive victory,The battle plays outIn ways you never anticipatedAnd you find yourself in a marathon wrestling matchWith struggles you’d rather not have.Some days all you can doIs stay in the fight,Take the hitsBut refuse to be knocked out,Refuse to let your heart grow bitter,Protect your mind […]

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