Conditional love

How do you respond to conditional love?Certainly not in kind.We are not necessarily boundBy the treatment others give to us,We have no obligationTo wait until their attitude improvesBefore we change our own.Love, as it turns out,Is always an option.Indeed it is a tall orderTo take the high road,But it is the only road availableTo reach […]

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On finding your tribe

One of the greatest possibilitiesOf the ongoing human experimentIs that the people we find kinship withMay not share our bloodOur skinOr our beliefs,But have the eyesTo see one another truly.Deeply.With hearts that have the depth and breadthTo hold space for each other.We do not need to be the sameTo walk with one anotherBut we do […]

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On fighting to be heard

Some people make the roomFeel smaller.Like there isn’t enough oxygenFor their existence and yours,Insufficient bandwidthTo carry all our intellect,Inadequate fundsFor us to spend our time togetherSimply beingAnd not competing.There’s nothing quite like the feelingThat you are fighting to be heard,Exerting yourselfIn defence of your right to be here,Using precious energyThat could be better usedIn service […]

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The failures of others

Are not necessarily occasionsFor your withdrawalOr consternation,As though you were an inanimatePiece of paperYellowing under the unforgiving sun,Curling in on itself Becoming increasingly deformedAs though it had no choice.Unlike that paperYou are not obligatedTo bend into yourselfWhen you are in pain-Something beautiful can be madeFrom your trauma.The failures of othersNeed not define youNor be the […]

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Welcome to humans

Good intentions go awry regularly,Offence is never far,Fear is always close,Misunderstanding to be expected.We love diversityUntil it tampers with our sacred cows,Superficial strides toward unityAre the easiest to make,We laugh at the truthAnd cry at perceived hurts,Routinely undervaluing our treasuresAnd overestimating our shortcomings.Its a lot to be human.Deep breaths are necessary,Apologies need not be scarce,Laughter […]

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Understanding others

Doesn’t mean condoning their folly Or overlooking the pain that they cause, But it does involve being curious   About where they are coming from And bringing an ear to hear  Not just their words but their heart.  It is a fools errand  To try and change another person, So rather than assuming victimhood And reacting […]

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Maturity is a doing word

Because the emotional labor required To overlook the shortcomings of others  For the sake of a healthier relationship  Does not come with age, But with intention.  Maturity is not a noun, As though it were something attained once off By virtue of simply being alive- No: Maturity is a choice  And one that we are […]

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Peaches and plums

Great is the discontent  Of the man who demands  That a different fruit grow  On the trees of his life. It may be that he desires  A better quality fruit, For which he must ensure  A rich soil and conducive moisture, But for a plum tree to produce peaches? Being exasperated that the plums  Are […]

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Stuck in the mud

Sometimes we get interruptedOn our way,Thrown together by fate for a whileWith people we thoughtWe’d only be with temporarily.United by strange circumstancesAnd inconvenienceAll trying to make sense of the momentAnd find the best way out of it.Yet what we found is thatThe mud did more than stick our feetTo the ground,It also bound our hearts […]

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‘It’s complicated’

Complication is an easy place to hide.Its tempting to sit on the fenceWhen there aren’t any neon lightsFlashing the obvious answer.Waiting for feelings of certaintyBefore making a move,Shooting down ideasBecause of their infancy,Sighing because realityIs real.Being undecidedDoesn’t stem from muddy circumstancesAs much as it does from cloudy perspectives:Unrealistic expectations,Excessive self-criticism,The need to be in control […]

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